In my previous post (3, April, 2020) I have discussed about Life Scripts. As per Transactional Analysis, a life script is a plan you made for your life, in all probability, by the age of six and obviously it was made without maturity and awareness.
The Script is formed based on the experiences that the child has with his parents or caretakers in his childhood. Based on the experiences and the way the child has been treated, the child makes certain decisions about his life.
Some of these decisions can be:
The parents provide the experiences for forming the script. The child comes to certain conclusions about itself based on the interactions with its parents.
For example, if the parent rejects the child repeatedly when the child attempts to approach the parent for a hug or consolation, the child will form a belief, "I am not worthy of love" or I am worth nothing." Based on these experiences and similar experiences in his life, the child builds a 'Loveless Life Script' or a 'Loser's Life Script'.
In the course of bringing up the child, the parent (i.e. both parents) unknowingly gives certain commands or directives to the child. These commands have the power of a curse or boon on the child. These commands are powerful for the child because the parent is like a Fairy God or Goddess or all-too powerful Witch. These commands can be compared to the curses given by our Gods and Goddesses or Sages who were inconvenienced or irritated. It is like a curse given by Goddess Bhoodevi (Goddess of Earth) to king Karna in Mahabharat ( a Mythological Epic in India).
Some of the commands can be:
In the course of time, the child collects evidence to reinforce his Script Beliefs in his interactions with others. Whenever someone does something like its parents did, it will strengthen its beliefs and reinforce it script.
Thus, based on the experiences and the commands given by the parent, the child builds a script and these beliefs and the decisions of the child get reinforced with later experiences as the child is inclined to collect evidence which supports his script beliefs and reject those experiences that do not match its script beliefs. Ultimately, one lives one's a pre-determined life and meets one's pre-destined end or death as decided in the script.
How does a Child Form the Script?
The Script is formed based on the experiences that the child has with his parents or caretakers in his childhood. Based on the experiences and the way the child has been treated, the child makes certain decisions about his life.
Some of these decisions can be:- I will end up being a loser
- I will be a loner (a lonely person) all my life
- I will live a life without love
- I will work hard all my life (I will never enjoy life)
- I will go crazy (i.e. mad)
- I will be successful whatever the struggles
The Parent's Role in Forming the Script
The parents provide the experiences for forming the script. The child comes to certain conclusions about itself based on the interactions with its parents.
For example, if the parent rejects the child repeatedly when the child attempts to approach the parent for a hug or consolation, the child will form a belief, "I am not worthy of love" or I am worth nothing." Based on these experiences and similar experiences in his life, the child builds a 'Loveless Life Script' or a 'Loser's Life Script'.
The Role of Parental Commands in the Formation of Script
In the course of bringing up the child, the parent (i.e. both parents) unknowingly gives certain commands or directives to the child. These commands have the power of a curse or boon on the child. These commands are powerful for the child because the parent is like a Fairy God or Goddess or all-too powerful Witch. These commands can be compared to the curses given by our Gods and Goddesses or Sages who were inconvenienced or irritated. It is like a curse given by Goddess Bhoodevi (Goddess of Earth) to king Karna in Mahabharat ( a Mythological Epic in India).
Some of the commands can be:
- Kill Yourself
- Be a Fool or Dud
- Go Crazy (mad)
- Don't be Happy in Life
- Don't be Successful (You will never be Successful)
- Work Hard all your life
- Become a Drug Addict
- Don't Be Close to People (Never have Close Relationships)
In the course of time, the child collects evidence to reinforce his Script Beliefs in his interactions with others. Whenever someone does something like its parents did, it will strengthen its beliefs and reinforce it script.
Thus, based on the experiences and the commands given by the parent, the child builds a script and these beliefs and the decisions of the child get reinforced with later experiences as the child is inclined to collect evidence which supports his script beliefs and reject those experiences that do not match its script beliefs. Ultimately, one lives one's a pre-determined life and meets one's pre-destined end or death as decided in the script.
Can we Break the Script and Rewrite it?
Yes. our Script can be broken and rewritten to live a life of autonomy. Transactional Analysis offers the tools and techniques to break one's script and live a script-free life. Eric Berne, the originator of Transactional Analysis came up with a tool called Script Analysis. Using Script Analysis, one can become aware of one's script and take action to break the script and live a script-free life.
To learn about Script Analysis and Transactional Analysis Therapy, the readers can approach the author of this blog @: karunakararaobotcha@gmail.com.
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