What is Personality Development?
Many people ask me, "What is Personality Development? I ask them back, "What do you want to change about yourself today?" They look at me dismayed.
Often people want to develop their personality, but do not know what is Personality. Hence they are confused as to what to develop about themselves.
First let me ask you, "What is Personality?"
Your Personality is:
- How you talk to people, i.e your style of communication
- How you dress, your hairstyle, your appearance, i.e. your personal style
- How you feel about something i.e your feelings
- How you think about an issue, i.e. your thinking
- How you react to a situation, i.e your actions etc....
So, your Personality is made up of your: - Thoughts
- Feelings and
- Behaviour (Actions)
These three aspects of your personality are interrelated. One can not be separated from another.
- For example, you want to change the way you react to your colleagues when you are angry, i.e you don't want to shout at them or throw things.
Now, if you look at the three aspects of the personality, your action or behavior is the last aspect of the personality. The other two aspects of personality, i.e. your thoughts and your feelings have a great say in your behaviour. In fact, they have all the say in your behavior. In other words, they are the deciding factors for your behaviour. What it means is that if you had different thoughts about the issue, you would have different feelings about the issue and your reaction would have been completely a different one. For example, you would have asked about why the results are low for the quarter rather than shout or throw the papers.
Personality Development is about Change
So, Personality Development is about what you want to change about yourself. For example, you might want to :- Speak more assertively with others
- Enjoy better relationship with your better half
- Give an effective presentation
- Manage time more productively
- Exercise daily
All the above are examples of personality development.
The Challenging Part
However, the difficult part is: How do you bring about the change in yourself?
Well, it requires:
- A strong desire to change
- A strong determination to bring about the change, and more importantly,
- Someone to guide you to bring about the change: a Coach, a Counselor, a Therapist
All in all, it requires a determined action and the help of a qualified person to bring about that desired change in yourself. So,
GO GET THAT CHANGE.....
